How to become a Good Bully 101-

How to become a good bully? Yes, I said it. There is no need to re-read the title; it was not a typo. Now, you’re probably thinking I’ve gone off of the deep end for encouraging you to be a “good bully” of all things, but hold tight, friends; there is much more to a book than its cover.

Often, we see others being the victim of one’s “fun”. Perhaps, you have been the one being bullied (the victim), I am willing to insert that we all have gone through this hurtful situation at least once in our lives. There is even a chance that you yourself have been the one inflicting pain on someone else’s expense so that you may feel self “glorification”. I am not proud of it, but I know I have been guilty of this in the past.

So why then am I encouraging you to be a “good bully” when anyone of you who know me knows that I would never desire pain to be put on anyone’s shoulders. You are accurate, I do not want this, but what I do want is for you to realize something crucial… bullying does not just happen on the surface, it sinks deep to the heart and the spiritual realm.

Example:

As an advocate for individual’s with special needs, I have seen many of these children bullied when they have done nothing wrong- even if they did, which they didn’t, this does not justify bullying… see my point? In this situation, how could I be a “good bully”?

Step 1- The first step is to always be aware of your surroundings. If you are aware of this, you are more likely to notice a change, whether for the positive or the negative, in your environment.

Step 2- If you see someone being “negatively” bullied, you must realize that as soon as the confrontation appears to be over, it has really just begun. You see, “negatively” bullying someone can be compared to a growing weed. A weed chokes the growth of the harvest. Similarly, once someone is bullied, a lot of times each piercing word shot through the victim’s heart echo in his or her mind hindering them from growing. This is when “good bullying” comes into play.

 
Step 3- You must realize that you have two choices. 1.) Go about your life and pretend you never saw this in discrepancy OR 2.) You can take action.

Step 4- Choosing the second option you begin to “bully” the thoughts of worthlessness away from the individual who fell prey to the unfair distribution of hate.

How do I do this?

This is simply done by letting the individual know how much he or she means to you and how special he or she truly is to you.

Perhaps you do not know the person- what then? Do not be afraid to approach a “stranger”; we are the body of the Heavenly Father, and it is our duty to reach out our arms in love to our spiritual brothers and sisters.

Let this person know that you were not meaning to pry; however, you could not help but witness this injustice and that the words of harassment he or she has received are not true. Keep in mind, this person may be embarrassed; you will want to talk to them softly, gently, and directly into their eyes- not loudly to draw more attention to what has just occurred.

Tell this person that he or she has a great purpose in life and that on this road to success many obstacles may try to defeat his or her purpose; however, keep him or her assured that through perseverance, determination, and faith he or she will be victorious. You do not have to say that exactly ( or you could), but remember, this person needs these words of encouragement.

This, my friends, is “good bullying”! Good bullying is when you bully away all negative thoughts from an individual who needs encouragement or even a smile. Good bullying is when you a plant a seed of new growth in this person to snuff out the negative bully weeds. Yes, I just said negative bully weeds; you can laugh.
Find it in your heart to love your neighbor. Before you speak or don’t speak, think about how you would wish to be treated.

Sure, it may feel awkward approaching a “stranger”, but I must believe that the Heavenly Father puts us in the right places at the right times when we follow His path. This may be the only time you and this person’s paths cross; do not miss out on this opportunity.

Use your voice. Stick up for people. Be a “good bully”. Minimize the hate. Do your part.

If you do your part, you will INSPIRE others to do their part, and the world will be a much better place!

Remember, INSPIRE starts with “I”. INSPIRE others today with your “good bullying” and actions. A smile is one of the greatest gifts you can give. How awesome do you feel when you are down in the dumps and a stranger lights up smiling at you? A smile can truly save a life; think about it. It’s free too!

Now, go be “good bullies”!